On the last day before entering this new lunar year of the Wood Horse, I had one of those days where the universe was sending clear messages, through different channels, all centering around the theme of judgment.
The first was an email from Russell Delman, where he was describing his time working with Mother Theresa, and reflecting on her essential advice. The second was a talk from Brene Brown on creativity and the critic, and the third was an email from Danielle Laporte exploring what we don’t know when we judge others.
Each of these three (links below) offered for me different angles on exploring how much judgment of self and others diminishes vitality, aliveness and connection.
Part of the research that Brene Brown has presented is that we judge most what we have the strongest shame triggers around in ourselves. I think we know this on a gut level, yet the reminder is helpful- if I see a strong judgement arise in myself, or am the recipient of judgement from another, to realize, “Oh yeah, there is some strong shame trigger in there…”
In the Tibetan tradition, the day before New Year’s is a day to clean the house, get rid of the dust and clutter so that the New Year can come in freshly. Along with some house cleaning last week, I was grateful to do some inner-house cleaning, exploring where I might lessen the influence that judgement has in my experience of living.
“Out beyond ideas of right doing and wrong doing there is a field, I’ll meet you there”
Wishing to meet you in that field…
PS Please note, the time of our Wednesday morning meditation has changed from 7-8 to 7:15-8:15 am @ Avenues Yoga.
PPS There is still some space in the men’s class beginning Mon Feb 24. It is an awesome group of men gathering so far, and I’m thrilled to begin!
People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies.
If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you.
Be honest and sincere anyway.
What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight.
If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, will often be forgotten.
Do good anyway.
Give the best you have, and it will never be enough.
Give your best anyway.
In the final analysis, it is between you and God.
It was never between you and them anyway.